I had a tough adolescence that made me a difficult teenager. I lost my parents and had no one to guide me. If I would’ve had an adult interested in helping me, I could have avoided painful experiences.
Now Patricia, a philosophy student, entrepreneur for 40 years, mother of six and a proud grandma of 8, shares her experience as a KKIS Advisor.
I’ve always worked with and dealt with teenagers and children. I wanted to take part in KKIS Advisors Program so I could help teenagers.
I consider that this is a crucial stage in life. It is the end of childhood and the beginning of adult life. The last stage where they’re living home and we can still educate.
In general, we ignore and judge this process. We see adolescence as a problematic and immature stage, but, based in scientific research, it has been proven that teenagers are going through a process of profound cerebral adjustment resulting in social, physical and emotional adjustments.
Teenagers who are aware of these changes, who learn about these adjustments, and receive support, can make the most out of the structural changes in their brain, go through every stage successfully and protect themselves from the risks of this stage.
With the Advisor program taking place outside their regular classroom hours, a more relaxed environment is created. It is important to create a safe environment to help them feel as comfortable as possible so they can be honest while speaking.
During this time as a KKIS Advisor, I’ve found that these kids need an interpreter. Someone to listen to them that isn’t a Teacher or a Parent. Someone with empathy and the ability to see what it feels like to be in their shoes. Someone with the capacity to express their opinion and help them decide healthy solutions by themselves.
An advisor has to understand that their only purpose is to bring clarity to this moment on the student’s life.
If I had the chance to speak to the parents of the students that I work with this semester, I would ask them to spend a moment of their week to communicate with them. Spend time listening to them, playing with them. Give them moments of acceptance, they need them. But, above all, I would ask them to research on nowadays adolescence so they can apply more wisdom and empathy in their relationships with them.
Remember how you felt when you were a teenager. Both positive aspects and especially the dangerous aspects, as those are the ones that they encounter in silence, and alone.
I would like to offer to parents and teenagers a free talk about adolescence so they can learn, value and go through together in this stage from a perspective offered by scientific discoveries.
To work with KKIS highschool scholarship students has been a precious opportunity and I feel motivated to keep working with them. Thank you for investing your efforts in this beautiful cause, I’m sure there will be great results.
The KKIS Project is looking for Spanish Speaking individuals interested in helping kids and committed to being in their lives on a regular basis (two hours every three weeks). We provide training and materials to make it easier for you.